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Stage
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Denial/Shock
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Anger
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Guilt
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Bargaining
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Depression
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Acceptance
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Describe
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Don’t
want to believe or accept. This is really no big deal.
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Lashing
out, mad or upset. Rage for no reason. Irrational.
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Feel
responsible. Self-blaming.
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Make
a deal w/ God or whomever. Try to change or redo situation. Contract. If
I_____ then you_____.
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Down,
sad, alone, left-out, withdrawn.
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Letting
go. Ability to go forward with life. Renewed energy & self-esteem.
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Words
& Thoughts
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It’s
not true. I know it will turn out to be a mistake. This is just a dream.
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I
HATE YOU! This is unfair. It’s all your fault. I’ll get you for this.
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What
did I do? It’s all MY fault. I always do it wrong. They’d be better
off without me.
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I’ll
promise to do/be___if only this isn’t true. Try to redo/undo situation.
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I
don’t care. It’s HOPELESS. It will never be OK again. What’s the
point of trying?
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It’s
OK. I can handle it. Things will be all right now. I still have a life and
can go on.
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Feelings/
Actions
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Act
like nothing has happened. Avoid issue Feel numb & stunned. More/less
active.
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Frustration,
irritability, pouting, sulking, raging. Verbal & physical hostility.
Attacking.
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Blame
self. Take responsibility for situations you did not cause.
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Do
better at activities. Act overly mature or responsible.
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Hopelessness
Helplessness. Uncontrollable crying, moodiness, fear of being rejected.
Loss of weight. Insomnia.
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Increased
trust in self & others. New sense of purpose. Sense of future. Relief.
New self-esteem & confidence.
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Bodily
Signs & Symptoms
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Muted
affect. Hyperactivity. Physical exhaustion. Insomnia, Restless or sleeps a
lot
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Increased
heart rate. Shortness of breath. Insomnia. Headaches. Chest pains, Mood
swings.
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Headaches.
Chest pain. Muscular tension. Fatigue. Upset stomach. Diarrhea.
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Increased
heart rate. Insomnia. Muscular tension. . Diarrhea. Anxiety. Headaches.
Chest pain
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Mental
& emotional confusion. Disorientation. Loss of appetite or overeating.
Can’t concentrate, tired all time. . Weight loss/gain Overly emotional.
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Return
to normal in all bodily functions.
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